Welcome back to the Leadership Reset Newsletter!
Nina came to me for help preparing for a senior promotion.
On paper, she was already successful: in a high-paying leadership role, respected, capable, and seen as someone who had it together. But she knew this next step mattered.
She didn’t want to wing it, she wanted to go in strong, clear, and confident.
We spoke at length about her goals and her fears.
Within minutes, she saw it: this wasn’t just about landing the role. It was about owning it.
She said, “I can already tell that this would be life-changing. I can feel my thinking shift, just from this conversation.”
But then came the pause…
She hesitated.
Not because she didn’t believe in me.
Not because she didn’t want the results.
But because – like so many women – she couldn’t quite justify spending that kind of money on herself.
A few days later, her daughter needed a tutor.
She paid it, without hesitation.
It wasn’t even a question.
Of course her daughter’s growth was worth investing in.
That moment stopped her in her tracks.
She realised she was willing to back everyone else – except herself.
She messaged me later:
“Why was it so hard to say yes to me? I’m in, I know this is the right thing.”
Coaching Room Insight: The Saboteur at Play
This is what the Judge sounds like in disguise:
• “I should know how to do this already.”
• “If I were really good enough, I wouldn’t need support.”
• “Other people are managing without help – why can’t I?”
• “I can’t spend that kind of money on me.”
• “What will people think?”
• “What if it works? What if everything changes?”
These are the voices I hear from brilliant, capable, senior women.
Women who others admire.
Women who hold up entire teams, families, and organisations.
Women who never think twice about investing in others but falter when it’s time to invest in themselves.
It’s not about logic.
It’s about FEAR.
Fear of being judged.
Fear of being seen.
Fear that they’re not enough, or maybe even that they’re too much.
Golden Tip: Catch the Hesitation – and Challenge It
Next time you feel yourself pulling back from an opportunity that could genuinely help you grow, ask:
• Would I hesitate if this was for my child?
• Would I invest if this was for my team?
• If I knew for certain that this would change how I feel, lead and live… would I still be holding back?
And when you feel the resistance?
Celebrate that you’ve caught it and seen it for what it is.
That’s your judge trying to keep you safe – and small.
You get to choose differently.
Latest Research Nugget: Why We Struggle to Invest in Ourselves
According to research from Harvard Business Review, women consistently undervalue their potential and delay investing in their own development, especially when compared to men in similar roles.
The most common reason?
They feel they should be able to figure it out on their own.
But transformation doesn’t come from white-knuckling through it.
It comes from support, reflection, challenge, and space.
I’ve spent over 20 years coaching senior leaders and have worked with thousands of women. I’m a certified Positive Intelligence Coach, NLP Master Practitioner and ICF-accredited coach – but what matters most?
I know how to help you shift the internal patterns keeping you stuck.
The bottom line is, I help you get results you likely don’t even believe are possible right now.
Client Highlight: Lisa’s Reset
Lisa (not her real name) has worked with me on and off for two years.
Every time she’s ready to rise again, she comes back.
Since we started, she’s increased her already high salary by 62.5%, and as she says, that’s great – but like many women, money isn’t her real driver.
No, the result she talks about most isn’t financial.
It’s the way she lives and leads now:
With calm. With clarity. With confidence. With energy. With space.
The results she’s got have helped her show up with confidence in the boardroom AND be more present at home with her family.
She told me:
“I feel like a totally different person. After years of doubting myself and believing I wasn’t good enough – despite the results I was getting – it’s like now I suddenly see it. And wow I feel so at ease, like I’m suddenly comfortable in my own skin. It’s honestly been life-changing. I originally came to you for help at interview…I NEVER thought what we’ve achieved could be possible”
She also said she can’t fathom why more women don’t jump at the chance to do this work.
I can.
Because their Judge is still in the driving seat.
Ready to Work Together? Here Are 3 Ways…
The Career Elevator– For ambitious women who are ready to move up, stand out, and finally claim the recognition (and salary) they deserve.
Perfect if you want promotion, clarity, or confidence in your next step.
The Leadership Reset Mastermind (formerly the Impactful Leader Mastermind) – My ultimate 8-month programme for experienced leaders who are done with overworking and ready to lead with impact, energy, and ease.
Built for women navigating senior roles, big responsibilities, and hormonal curveballs.
1:1 Coaching – I currently have one space open for a private client. Ideal for senior women ready to go deep and fast, whether that’s for confidence, clarity, or a complete reset.
Not sure what’s right for you?
Book a free call and let’s talk through your goals and how I can help you get there.
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